I was reminder today that April is Cancer Awareness Month. This fact struck me in two ways. The first is that the statistics are staggering, doctors diagnose over 1 million new cases of cancer every year. I don’t know anyone who has never had a friend or family member diagnosed with cancer. In the Vancouver blog scene, we’re all rooting for Derek K. Miller. The second is that my step-father died of brain cancer in April 1997. It’s hard to believe that he’s been gone for 10 years. I remember crying through an English exam the morning he died. I decided that it was easier for me to write the exam and be free to grieve than to try and explain with less than 24-hours notice that I needed to reschedule the exam, which I would then have to write 3 months later. It’s strange the decisions we make in stressful times.
So for those who have survived, Raincoast published a brilliant book last year called Picking Up the Pieces. It’s about how to move forward after the doctors have given you the all-clear, after there’s no more medications. That’s a strange time. Sherri Magee and Kathy Scalzo, the authors, talk about how that holding period can disrupt your life. You’re not 100% but you’ve survived. People can’t understand why you’re not gleeful, why you can’t just pull yourself together and get on with life. The first day back in the office is what stuck with me. People don’t know how to respond to you. “Hey, great to see you back. Now about that stats report …”
Here’s the link again: Picking Up the Pieces by Sherri Magee and Kathy Scalzo.
There’s a podcast you can listen to with them talking about the book and their research and work with cancer survivors. It’s good for the survivor but also for family and friends.